IS CHEATING A  SIN?

By Candy


Why do people have different definitions and classifications of sin? Man’s definition and standards are not God’s definition of life and standard for living. People are gradually becoming gods to themselves and it is very sad to watch. This is subtly causing them to define sin by their standards and understanding.

The word of God is truth, and it is only by God’s word we can establish what truth truly is.

According to Webster’s dictionary, the word iniquity means gross injustice, wickedness, or sin.

To determine if cheating is a sin, let us first know what the bible defines as sin along these 3 paths:

First, sin is the transgression of the Law

“Whoever commits sin also commits lawlessness, and sin is lawlessness” (I John 3:4).

The bible reads that sin is lawlessness. In King James Version, I John 3:4 is translated as, “Whosoever committeth sin transgresseth also the law: for sin is the transgression of the law.”

Transgression means, “The act of passing over or beyond any law or rule of moral duty; the violation of a law or known principle of rectitude; breach of command” (Webster Dictionary).

From this verse, we can say that whoever disobeys God’s commandments is guilty of sin.

Second, sin is not doing the right thing

“Therefore, to him who knows to do good and does not do it, to him it is sin” (James 4:17).

Sin is the nature of the fallen man that engages to do what is not good and something wrong with others and to God, but it is also not doing. This verse is resonant with what Jesus said, “Therefore, whatever you want men to do to you, do also to them…” (Matthew 7:12). 

As a hermit, we can not want to live in the mountains secluded from civilization just to avoid sinning. As long as we are in the world of men, we would have to consciously and actively find opportunities to do good.

Third, sin is doing anything outside of faith

“… for whatever is not from faith is sin” (Romans 14:23).

And without faith it is impossible to please God…” (Hebrews 11:6).

Doubt is a danger to faith, and anything done or said outside the framework of faith is sin. The lifestyle of every godly man is that of faith. If your faith tells you should not do something and yet do it still, you will be guilty of sin. Sometimes, an act is not necessarily a sin, but it becomes a sin if done against your belief, faith, and conscience.

What is cheating?

Cheating is one of those things that everyone thinks they know the definition of, but all it takes is asking two or more people what they believe cheating means to figure out that it’s not so cut-and-dry as you thought. The binding glue of all relationships is “COMMITMENT,” which becomes the standard for faithfulness, truthfulness, and fidelity.

Cheating is a betrayal of trust

When you enter ‌a committed partnership with someone, the most typical expectation is that they remain loyal to you and your shared commitment. The exact opposite of having a shared commitment is cheating. “Cheating is an act of betrayal. Betrayal is a violation of a person’s trust,” says clinical psychologist Dr. Joshua Klapow.

Cheating is violating an agreement

In any committed relationship, there are certain agreements on what is expected of each partner. This varies from couple to couple, but how they can violate those mutual understandings should be clearly defined. “In today’s world, we have the freedom to define our relationships in any way we choose,” Dr. Jennifer B. Rhodes, a licensed psychologist, tells Bustle. “That does, however, mean having conversations about what that looks like to each person. When this is done, the transgression is very clear.”

Cheating can be physical or emotional

The concept of cheating differs from relationship to relationship, thus, it is important to refer to all initial agreements made with your partner.

Psychologist Gregory Kushnick says, “A universal definition of cheating is less important than what a couple jointly defines as constituting a deviation from the agreement.” “Cheating can be physical, emotional, and/or digital. Cheating involves channeling sexual energy or deep, emotional support toward someone who could potentially represent a sexual partner. It usually, but not always, involves some form of deceit and neglect of your partner’s needs.”

Yes, cheating is a sin

Bustle readers did a survey in 2020 with 283 individuals. The results revealed that 53% of the readers had been cheated on, and about 31% of its readers have been the partner who cheated. 

Despite this, 85% of readers were not or had never been in an open relationship — showing that monogamous commitments were much more common than not.

According to Bustle readers, only 22% felt that having a crush on someone else was a form of cheating, while 69% thought meeting up with an ex and hiding it from their partner was cheating. 

With the adverse acceptance of social media in our daily lives, one of the most debated “gray areas” of cheating among readers liked someone else’s social posts.

Cheating is any action, feeling, or thought that goes against God’s and others’ agreed standards with you in consent.

Why is this bullseye very important?

With so many grey areas we are facing in this dispensation of human history, one line of cheating (be it a sin or not) for a couple would not be a line of cheating for another couple or a set of relationships.

This is because we are becoming more self-governed as human beings and arguably shifting grounds alongside sides of human interactions, be it in marriage, business or relationship.

There is a governing principle for all human interactions, which is the golden rule:

“Teacher, which is the greatest commandment in the Law?” Jesus replied: “‘Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind.’ This is the first and greatest commandment. And the second is like it: ‘Love your neighbor as yourself.’ All the Law and the Prophets hang on these two commandments. – Matthew 22:36-40”

There is a part of 1 Corinthians 13 verse 5 that speaks of how ‘love doesn’t behave unseemingly.’ Proverbs 23:7 captures it differently: “As a man thinketh, so is he…”

Jesus said you will know a tree by its fruit. The fruit of the tree is simply a reflection of the root it’s connected to. You will never get an orange from an apple tree root. Just as you will not get faithfulness from a cheating heart or purity from a heart of sin. The core of who you are as evidenced by the thoughts or roots of your heart. 

Cheating is an outward fruit of an inward seed of character deficiency.

That’s why what is on the inside is so much more important than what is on the outside. You can mask the outside to others, and you can try to bury it in the world around you. But, ultimately, what’s in your heart will reveal who you really are.

Here, we see the inward content making its way outward in going outside the boundaries of agreement or moral code.  

What’s inside our hearts eventually makes its way out through our mouths, actions, or attitudes. And when the things in our hearts are yucky, the outbursts will also be yucky. in plain terms, if cheating or sin is in the heart, it will make it’s way out in action.

But the goodness of God’s love in our hearts isn’t that way. God’s love compels us to behave in ways that are trustworthy, have integrity, and are gratifying. 

This is beyond putting on an act here. God’s love doesn’t smile on the outside while rehearsing ugly comments on the inside. It is genuine. When we get to the place where we can control our thoughts and emotions, controlling our actions will be easy!

 

Scriptural references

Proverbs 11:1; 16:11; 20:10&23

 

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